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Damien is a 13 years experienced the trauma of being physically and psychologically abused by a sibling with psychiatric disorders. His brother, older and complexion strong physical, had subjected to abuse on many occasions. In general, situations occurred in the absence of their parents and were dwarfed by them when they are told Damian. This was producing a series of behaviors on the part of Damien, tending to avoid being alone in the house with his brother. Delayed arrival at your home or stayed with friends. In any case, often was not to avoid the situation that was experienced as a very threatening situation. In its consultations
have used EFT to relieve many aspects of this trauma: fear, anxiety, anger, resentment, guilt, etc. . Damian results were very interesting, including that he learned the art and told me he used frequently. Even told me it was applied with a friend who helped solve a conflict.
Everything seemed to go better. Slowly, but improving. Except for one issue: Damian was very thin.
Since the critical stages of their traumatic experience, had long periods where their food had many disorders, including anorexia stages. In recent consultations that aspect was improving but not completely. Damian fed, but very sparingly. Maintained all normal activities, but had a feeling profound and persistent tiredness. There were times of day that only wanted to sleep.
As we applied EFT about these symptoms and fatigue had no lasting improvement, we began to explore new aspects of this problem. Reviewing a little of their history, Damian told me an episode where, during a meeting of friends, had a conduct disorder very aggressive reactions towards them. Would have happened not remember anything in particular that he was angry so much and so violently . Several passages in that event relates to the reference from your friends because you do not remember well. This experience was disturbed
much, by installing a very disturbing question: Could he was as violent as his brother? Damian had suffered much abuse different and rejected his brother deeply such behavior, so that the mere consideration that he might be able to behave similarly distressed him greatly.
Then I asked how he felt about the possibility that he too was violent and his response was: "fear" .
begin with the phrase:
"Despite the fear I feel to be violent ..."
I asked to assess the distress that had been made a moment to think about it (I should clarify that we did not scale unrest, but I assure you it was very intense). Responded that it was softer, but still bothered him.
add the phrase:
"Despite the anguish I feel at the thought that I can be violent as my brother ..."
A couple of rounds on that achieved almost complete relief in their distress.
I took the punt to request that we revise a bit of sense could have its thinness and weakness.
I explained that many times our body "means" through the symptoms that our awareness is not enough to perceive. Following this idea, I proposed the idea to seek what could be trying to "tell" your body, staying weak and thin.
After playing around with various possibilities, was decanting the idea that to be violent he should have energy and physical strength (such as your brother) , and perhaps unconsciously weakness as "protected" of this trend.
I said he had not taken account of this view of his situation, but it was meaningless.
tapping apply the phrase
"Although weakened me to protect me from being violent ..."
The natural conclusion that emerged then was that weaken was not a real solution , because losing its strength was also reaching out to the things they liked to do. At that point I raised was understandable that their initial reaction to the rejection of violence, but he could choose how to use his strength and energy of ways best suited to their interests. We did a round with the support of an election :
"Although I was weakened by the rejection of violence, I choose to use my energy on things that I like."
I proposed to continue to monitor their attitudes to see if detected aspects of these issues. He agreed and decided to continue working.
From that days I have not dealt with, but recently I had consultation with one of his friends. Damian asked him and he told me that was fine and that had gained weight. I gather that this may be the result of which improved their eating behavior. While I have not had any contact with Damien, I know that had incorporated the technique clearly EFT and I am sure that what worked that day was the basis for correcting this problem physical weakness.
Until next time.
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